“When they gotta go, they gotta go” (article)

Hey everyone,

How are you? I hope you are all safe, healthy and happy. I found this article posted online recently about a 2 year old boy experiencing a “poo explosion” at the shops, in public. I don’t know if he has Encopresis or not, but the moral of the story is what I love. Here is the link to the article:

http://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/reader-stories/mum-rescued-by-shoppers-as-her-son-delivers-almighty-poo-explosion?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=editorial

Everyone in that shop was kind and very empathetic in helping the family with the clean up and waiving the bill. After reading this article and how the parents can see a happy side to it all (and how the general public handled it too) it makes me feel happy inside. This is more preferable than to be yelled at or be told that I was “an embarrassment to be out in public” with during my personal experiences with Encopresis. I wish I was there to lend a hand and support.

At the end of the article it says this:

As for advice for other parents who find themselves the victim of a public poo explosion, Amy says try to remember that it will be funny … one day.

“You’ll get through it, even though it doesn’t seem so at the time, and at least you’ll have a good story to tell at their 21st Birthday!”

The Encopresis journey may be hard now, but it does get better. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You are not alone anymore. Let me know what you think about this. What are your thoughts/experiences? Tell me below or you can e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com

Stay strong, happy and never stop being who you are inside. Take care and enjoy the weekend,

Dimity

 

The Right To Go campaign (school toilets and Encopresis)

Hi everyone,

How are you? I hope you’re all going well, and returning to school life (for those that do). I found this picture recently on Facebook about a comic strip of a school and a pass to be able to go to the toilet during class time, as an excuse to do something less constructive. See diagram below:

School Hall Pass for toilet breaks (found on Facebook, 14th February 2016)

I’m not sure if this is meant to be humorous, however it did get me thinking. During my time as a student, going to the toilet during recess/lunch wasn’t a positive experience. The few times I went in there (especially in High School) made me want to get in quick and get out. Bullies in the classroom are hard enough to deal with on a normal day to day basis. Students laughing, gossiping and pressuring me into smoking cigarettes isn’t something that I was comfortable with. It was easier to go at home in peace and quiet. Already self conscious and low self esteem because of living with Encopresis meant that doing anything other than a tinkle was out of the question. Unfortunately neither  of the schools that I attended was aware of Encopresis, and how to treat their students with it.

ERIC UK (The Children’s continence charity) started a campaign in 2014 called, “The Right To Go” to highlight every child’s right to good care for a continence problem at school and to access safe and hygienic toilet facilities. Here is the link to their campaign for more information: http://www.eric.org.uk/Campaigns/TheRightToGo . I truly support this campaign, and plan on collaborating with the schools to help educate them on living with the condition, so other students don’t have to suffer a similar experience. Here in Australia and around the world.

Here is also a link to the “Toilet Tactics Kit” that the Continence Foundation of Australia have available as a resource. Link here: http://www.continence.org.au/pages/-toilet-tactics-kit-411.html .

 

Let me know what your thoughts are on this, or if you have anything else to share. Enjoy the new week ahead. Stay true to yourself, keep smiling and be authentic. @TheEllenShow #BeKindToOneAnother .

Dimity

Beauty Personified

Hey everyone,

How are you all? I hope that you are all doing very well and enjoying the new week ahead.

I received a beautiful poem written from a fellow Incontinence (Encopresis) survivor that I have been corresponding with for several years. Let me know what you think about it. Here it is:

BEAUTY PERSONIFIED

Looking around in wide and breadth

I went in search for a place where beauty had no dearth;

Found myself on a museum called ‘earth’

Below whose bower laid beauty well covered

 

I noticed the beautiful ocean, ‘so blue’!

But the beauty of blue was not so true!

The sky never did give us a clue….

But without the brocade over it, never the ocean had the ‘true blue ’

 

Came after the cozy night, appeared there the golden moon!!

Shining bright, but I don’t fall for it that soon

Wondering at the moon I discovered, she is filled with scars,

She was just trying to brazen staying that far

 

My search took me around the globe

Tired I was full of grief, singing in my lament;

I closed my eyes, after which mother earth opened her latch,

My questions all answered, I found a beauty for which had not match

 

I was scandalized but finally had a reason to smile

I felt like I just came out of exile!

This search left me satisfied

Oh! Mother Nature you are a beauty personified!

A list of Encopresis books (those that I currently have)

Hi everyone,

How is your weekend going? Below is a list of Encopresis books that I currently own (book copy), and will review in a future blog post including where they are available to buy. If there are other physical books on the subject available that you know of that aren’t on this list and am interested in a honest review, feel free to mention it in the comments section or e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com

List of Encopresis books:

  • A Girl Like You: A story for older children who soil – British Edition (Author: James Parkin) (Publisher: Amazon Digital Services)
  • Stool Withholding: What To Do When Your Child Won’t Poop! (Author: Sophia J. Ferguson) (Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform)
  • The Ins and Outs of Poop: A Guide to Treating Childhood Constipation (Author: Thomas R. Duhamel, PhD) (Publisher: Maret Publishing)
  • Scared To Poop: A Guide To Overcoming Constipation And Stool Withholding In Children (Author: Kathleen M. Diehl) (Publisher: Gateway to Being)
  • Solving Children’s Soiling Problems: A Handbook For Health Professionals (Author: Jackie Bracey) (Publisher: Churchill Livingstone)
  • Constipation, Withholding and Your Child: A Family Guide to Soiling and Wetting (Author: Anthony Cohn) (Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers)
  • Elimination Disorders in Children and Adolescents: Advances in Psychotherapy, Evidence-Based Practice (Authors: Edward R. Christophersen & Patrick C. Friman) (Publisher: Hogrefe Publishing)
  • Clouds and Clocks: A Story For Children Who Soil, Second Edition (Author: Matthew Galvin, M.D.) (Publisher: Magination Press)
  • It Hurts When I Poop!: A Story for Children Who Are Scared to Use the Potty (Author: Howard J. Bennett, M.D.) (Publisher: Magination Press)
  • Bladder and Bowel Issues for Kinds: A Handy Guide for Kids Ages 4-12 (Author: Janet  A. Hulme M.A., P.T.) (Publisher:Phoenix Publishing; 1 edition (June 2003)
  • I Can’t. I Won’t. No Way!: A Book for Children Who Refuse to Poop (Author: Tracey J. Vessillo) (Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (October 31, 2011)
  • The Un-Constipated Gourmet: Secrets to a Moveable Feast. 125 Recipes for the Regularity Challenged (Author: Denielle Svetcov) (Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.)
  • Poop: A Natural History of The Unmentionable (Author: Nicola Davies) (Publisher: Candlewick Press)
  • Softy the Poop: Helping Families Talk About Poop (Author: Thomas R. DuHamel, PhD) (Publisher: Maret Publishing)

What do you think of the list so far? What are you most interested in reading a review of? What are your favourites? Are there any others that need to be included?

I hope this list helps. Don’t forget to keep an eye out for my book. Enjoy the rest of the weekend and have the most amazing week ahead. Take care,

Dimity

The Skid Mark (with Encopresis)

 

Hey everyone,

How are you all going? Thank you for your e-mails & messages, and please keep them coming. Today this blog post is about Skid mark (with Encopresis). See diagram below.

The ENCOPRESIS SKID MARK diagram

 

A Skid mark is a very thin faecal line down the underwear and it can range from having a slightly soft texture to hard small faecal bits stuck to the underwear. Keep in mind that the skid marks also can appear when bottom hasn’t been cleaned properly, leaving a residue in the underwear. In my personal experience the smell is less noticeable as the stool isn’t as old in the body compared to normal Encopresis impaction.

As my Encopresis journey was nearing it’s ending, I noticed that the soiling changed from a heavy soiling to the skid mark. As the amount of soiling decreased, the skid marks were more noticeable. It can still leave a stain, and be aware of small pieces of stool deposits stuck to the underwear. The way I view it, and in my personal opinion & experience with Encopresis, if you see the skid mark the end is in sight. This isn’t a guarantee, just an observation. Always be vigilant, never let Encopresis determine WHO you are! There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Tell me: Have you seen any of the types of skid mark mentioned above or different?

Feel free to share your thoughts on this topic.

Take care everyone,

Dimity

P.S. “With an open mind, and an open heart…anything is possible!”

An Encopresis Survivor’s guide to Social self confidence (Part 1)

Whenever it was recess/lunch time at school I spent the majority of time by myself, or I would talk to the teachers when they were doing their walk around on duty. “Why don’t you go hang out with your friends?” they would ask. “What friends?” was my constant reply. I could hang out with the bullies…plenty of them around. When the kids at school went to a party, school dance or ball..guess who wasn’t invited? Being treated as a loner for no other reason than “just because”, isn’t going to do anything good.

Having Encopresis with the uncontrollable soiling of underwear (and NO urge) is hard enough, having any chance of a social life is a long distant dream. When I see the “popular kids” or anyone with the huge self confidence or a social butterfly, I admit I’m envious. I cried a lot because of the bullying, being stabbed, work stolen and things thrown at me. Neither of these are related to having Encopresis, only I wasn’t self confident enough to not let it upset me.

The teenage years are where the affects of peer pressure and peer influence take hold. I was able to invite a few friends to my birthday, but rarely was I invited in return. Sometimes in the movies/TV shows there are scenes where the teenagers are hanging out with their friends (both guys and girls), dates and all the other fun stuff. When you have Encopresis (including myself), it isn’t a cliche but real. It can be so painful to watch other teenagers be happy and do “normal” things, but can only view it from the outside and no idea what it’s like to actually experience it for his/herself.

Once I left school after Graduation and no longer in contact of people from school life (especially the bullies), I am more able to gain my self confidence, and with it a sense of social confidence. Performing and books (writing, reading and the library) are always a part of me. I am my most happiest doing what I love, and no longer allow bullies to take control. I won’t be somewhere if the bullies are there. I always stayed true to myself, my family and my interests.

Being on stage, on set or writing and hanging out with like minded people means a lot to me. The more I know about myself and push my comfort zone, the more I can stand up for myself. I can walk down the street with a  spring in my step and talk to people. To tell someone I know that I had Enco isn’t easy, but it really is freeing. Here is a quote from a recent e-mail that a fellow Encopresis survivor sent me:

“I told my few friends in class that I had a disorder called Encopresis and for the first time in my life I no more feel shallow for myself and that they took it lightly now I feel much better around them.
Initially I repented telling them but I found that its better to let them know than hiding inside and killing my social life, I even discovered that its considerably a better experience than being sympathised. I am really doing good at this now and I am always thankful for your dedicated efforts towards enco veterans. I may be healing in a real slow pace but I found it as a healthy development and I am sure that my leap of faith did not go in vain”.

Understandably not everyone is ready to open up to someone they trust about this condition (myself included at the time). Opening up about this to someone you trust (close friend, teacher, family) is hard initially but is something I suggest you do. If suffer from Encopresis while at school for example, a trusting friend that knows what is happening and on your team, can hint that you need to change and be there for moral support. The first step is always the hardest.

Keep posted to my blog for Part 2 of this post. Don’t forget to subscribe, write/e-mail to The Ellen DeGeneres Show and give the Facebook page a LIKE ( https://www.facebook.com/helpencopresissurvivorseeellen?ref=hl ), and let me know how you go.

Do you have any suggestions? Have you shared your story with anyone else and was it helpful in gaining confidence in yourself and social confidence? Take care,

Dimity

Never Give Up!!

When I was a little girl in Year 1 (or Year 2) at school, I heard a song that wasn’t ever forgotten. I was staying overnight at a friend’s house (at the age of 6 years old), and her & I were dancing. It was the chorus to “One More Night” by Phil Collins that truly touched me. At the time I never knew what the name of the song was or who sang it, but I never gave up on it.

Growing up, no matter where I was, that song was there. At the age of 11 years old, I remember hanging out at the hangar where my dad worked and hearing it on the radio. I would listen intently waiting to find out the name, but no such info was shared. As an early teenager I would go to the music shop, but no one could help me there either.

It was at another sleepover (with a different friend), as a 15 year old, that I found out the name. It was on a karoke DVD (the title) and when I played it, the tune matched the song. I never gave up on it. After I came home, I Google searched it, downloaded what I thought was it, listened to it…and cried. It had found the song that never left my heart, had a name and brought back the happy memories of when I first heard it. A few years go when I was in a chemist/pharmacy in Singapore, it was on the radio. I wouldn’t leave the shop until it finished. That song is very sentimental to me. It also shares an important message.

The message: Never give up!! I never gave up on a song when all I had was the tune of the chorus to go by. It took many years, but I found it. No matter what you are going through, including Encopresis, NEVER GIVE UP.

One day I’ll get onto The Ellen DeGeneres Show and talk about Encopresis. I can’t give up, I won’t give up.

Stay true to yourself, never let Encopresis stop you from being and achieving whatever you want to. YOU can do it. I believe in you.

Dimity