Does Encopresis mean bad parenting?

For many of the parents whom have children with Encopresis, a common thought that I hear a lot of is wondering if it’s a result of bad parenting. It breaks my heart when I hear this. My own parents have also been accused of being a bad parent or to not have brought me up right. This is a majorly bad assumption. My parents raised me correctly and I’m proud to be their daughter (only daughter).

Due to the many different (and many unknown) triggers of Encopresis, it’s very hard to pinpoint what exactly is the individual’s trigger. For some families it’s a food sensitivity, moving house, death in the family (or other traumatic experiences) or simply something wrong with the body. Sadly not many people (including fellow survivors) open up publically about the condition, leaving others in the dark and feel so alone. Myths and misconceptions breed including false accusations from people that don’t truly understand Encopresis. Everyone’s story and experiences are unique.

Each child responds differently in different situations, and respond accordingly. Parents do as best they can with all the love and support within them. Encopresis isn’t a result of bad parenting, and it never will be. As a vocally proud Encopresis Survivor, I will support all parents through this condition as best I can (including supporting fellow battlers and survivors). If you as a parent is reading this blog, please be rest assured that you are NOT a bad parent. Encopresis does not mean bad parenting and I stand by that. It’d be easier if my parents knew what was happening, but that’s not what happened. They aren’t bad parents. They love me and support me. This is what a parent does. It’s not their fault my body wasn’t working properly. Only a small percentage of people in the world are diagnosed (and not diagnosed officially) as having Encopresis. If I’m not at a certain developmental point in my life as I “should” be, how come I have been measured with a societal standard that doesn’t know anything about personally having Encopresis?

You are not bad parents (nor are the parents that have raised you if you are an Encopresis Survivor/battler with this). I’ll go onto The Ellen DeGeneres Show (if she’d have me) and verify that Encopresis does NOT mean, or result from, bad parenting. I’m here for you. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

What are your thoughts on this? Have you been accused of being a bad parent because of Encopresis? How does it make you feel?

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Encopresis in Adults (even you aren’t alone in this)

I have recently received several e-mails from other Encopresis battlers whom are in their 20’s. Their identities are withheld, and I honour and respect their wishes. My heart goes out to each and every one of them and their families. Some are embarrassed to talk about it to others, understandably, and feel so alone.

A recent e-mail from a 20-something Encopresis-battler asked me about Encopresis and if it affects fertility or not. Whomever sent this (and you know who you are), you can be rest assured that as far as I know (and researched) Encopresis doesn’t negatively impact fertility because I know of someone who is also a 20-something Encopresis-battler and his girlfriend (that doesn’t have Encopresis) is pregnant!! I have also received e-mails/Facebook chats from parents whom have children with Encopresis but suffered similar incontinence problems as a youngster too. If I do find evidence of Encopresis affecting fertility (or Cancer) I will definitely let you know, my fellow readers.

The suggestions I have for parents whom have children with Encopresis are also useful things to consider if you are an adult with Encopresis. Drinking plenty of water (or Tea), daily probiotic, exercise regularly, check for any hidden dietary allergies (such as Gluten or dairy), have fibre in the diet, remain positive, don’t yell/punish (if you are the parent), have open and loving communication and never let Encopresis determine you or your life. Encopresis doesn’t last forever. Yes it may seem like it, and I too have often felt it to be a curse. Now I’m turning it into a blessing and helping you guys and everyone else I can about this condition (and the professionals too, if you wish to collaborate).

“Encopresis in adults” has been a common online search name, and with the recent e-mails I have received lately I thought it was something worth writing about today.

If you have any comments/feedback or suggestions, you are welcome to post your thoughts below, share my blog around or e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com

Stay strong. YOU are NEVER alone with Encopresis. I am here for you all (and my love).

“With an open mind, and an open heart…anything is possible!” – Dimity. T