How I overcame my fear of talking to strangers on the phone

For many years I was teased/harrassed from bullies from school on the phone. It was hard for me to listen when people I couldn’t recognise was saying bad things, laughing, calling my name in a teasing way, etc. Overtime I developed a fear of calling/talking to strangers on the phone. I was fine talking to my family, friends or other people I knew…but I didn’t have the courage to actually call a business or be like a receptionist and answer the phone.  For me it was more of an anxiety than a proper fear (heart racing, butterflies in my stomach, occasionally mumble my words). To simply “just call them” wasn’t something I could do as I would rather use e-mail or some other non-personal form of communication to get by.

A few years ago, I saw an episode on the Dr Phil show and it had someone that was scared of the phone. He suggested that she call businesses randomly (and make some sort of excuse to call them) to help create that courage to use the phone. For me, I would make sure I had a cup of tea beside me, have a dialogue in my head that I would say and rind myself that the person I’m calling doesn’t know me or my history (or encopresis) or anything like that to bully me…they’re there to answer my questions, etc. If I received a call, it was visa versa. Overtime that helped me. As I have more positive experiences now from calling businesses (and receive calls from strangers), my confidence is improving. It also helps that I don’t go to school now and don’t get bullied (rarely bullied anyway). I have less anxiety now when I make calls (and I call more people now).

It’s great to know that with simple steps it is possible to face your fears and anxiety and do them until the fear disappears. It is an example of “mind over matter”. 🙂

What fears or phobias have you overcome??

A plane has crashed in Broome, tonight!

I saw a plane take off about 8:15pm ish tonight (11/07/2012), and we get a phone call about 8:30pm that has plane has crashed into the sea. There was an orchestra show on at the beach, and everyone there heard a strange noise and heard the crash. Far as I know, no one witnessed the actual crash. I have been at the beach for 2 hours and didn’t get home til near midnight. The plane hasn’t been found yet, but they’ll keep looking tomorrow. It was a young 22 year old pilot, in a twin engine freight plane. The beach was busy with snoopy onlookers (as they do in Broome) as was the Police and other emergency services. The Coastwatch plane was flying in a grid looking for the one that went down, up and down the coast, and there were boats in the water with their search lights on. Looking. After 10pm I saw a bright red flare off in the distance (not a flying flare but a hand held one), apparently it was a signal to the police force on the beach.

As the cars were leaving the beach the ambulance got bogged in the soft sand at the entrance to the car ramp (infront of the Surf Life Savers Club) twice!! That’s as far as I know. It was rather chilly at the beach. I saw an owl too. Goodness knows what will happen tomorrow and how the rest of the search will go, and what the “Broomers” are going to be (rumours in Broome). WOW!!

My heart goes out to the pilot and his family, the aircraft owners and the business owners at this time. xx

P.S. Found out today (next day, 12th July 2012), that the pilot has died and the plane crashed in the sand dunes..it never made it to the sea.