Beauty Personified

Hey everyone,

How are you all? I hope that you are all doing very well and enjoying the new week ahead.

I received a beautiful poem written from a fellow Incontinence (Encopresis) survivor that I have been corresponding with for several years. Let me know what you think about it. Here it is:

BEAUTY PERSONIFIED

Looking around in wide and breadth

I went in search for a place where beauty had no dearth;

Found myself on a museum called ‘earth’

Below whose bower laid beauty well covered

 

I noticed the beautiful ocean, ‘so blue’!

But the beauty of blue was not so true!

The sky never did give us a clue….

But without the brocade over it, never the ocean had the ‘true blue ’

 

Came after the cozy night, appeared there the golden moon!!

Shining bright, but I don’t fall for it that soon

Wondering at the moon I discovered, she is filled with scars,

She was just trying to brazen staying that far

 

My search took me around the globe

Tired I was full of grief, singing in my lament;

I closed my eyes, after which mother earth opened her latch,

My questions all answered, I found a beauty for which had not match

 

I was scandalized but finally had a reason to smile

I felt like I just came out of exile!

This search left me satisfied

Oh! Mother Nature you are a beauty personified!

Guest Blog posts and collaboration opportunities

Hey everyone,

How are you all going? How is your weekend? Mine is going well here.

As mentioned earlier in a previous post, I’m currently in the process of expanding my blog will be revealing each expansion as part of the blog evolvement. The first part of the blog expansion is Guest Blog posts.

The Guest Blogger can be someone whom is involved in the Incontinence (Encopresis) journey. It can be a family member (a parent, loving sibling, carer) whom is willing to open up about his/her experiences, questions, suggestions and what life is like living with a loved one (kinda like an “outside looking in/day in the life”). The Guest Blogger can be an Encopresis survivor, opening up and sharing his/her experiences on the journey (“day in the life/this is what it was like for me and how it can help you”). Those that are currently an Encopresis warrior and want to share their story are also welcome too. Hopefully I can also have specialists and other professionals involved as well.

The Guest Blogger isn’t just open to those on the Incontinence (Encopresis) journey. I am opening my blog for other people as well, as time goes on.

If you, or someone you know, is interested in being a Guest Blogger then e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com and go from there.

Another opportunity is collaboration. I’m open to collaborate with a business/charity/blogger, etc on projects. It could be a book, organise a phone call/meeting with a family, go on a tour and talk to the schools. My blog is open to providing information for events, shows, product reviews (*subject to a selection criteria) and more.

If you, or someone you know, is interested in collaborating on a project then e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com and go from there.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a Guest Blogger post or a collaboration idea, don’t think that this is a one-off. I’m open to the same person/business having more guest posts later on and always open to working on more than one project with someone. If you have any ideas or suggestions about all this, please let me know.

Never let anything stop you from achieving your dreams. Work hard at it, every step forward is one more closer to where you want to be. Enjoy the weekend.

Dimity

A list of Encopresis books (those that I currently have)

Hi everyone,

How is your weekend going? Below is a list of Encopresis books that I currently own (book copy), and will review in a future blog post including where they are available to buy. If there are other physical books on the subject available that you know of that aren’t on this list and am interested in a honest review, feel free to mention it in the comments section or e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com

List of Encopresis books:

  • A Girl Like You: A story for older children who soil – British Edition (Author: James Parkin) (Publisher: Amazon Digital Services)
  • Stool Withholding: What To Do When Your Child Won’t Poop! (Author: Sophia J. Ferguson) (Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform)
  • The Ins and Outs of Poop: A Guide to Treating Childhood Constipation (Author: Thomas R. Duhamel, PhD) (Publisher: Maret Publishing)
  • Scared To Poop: A Guide To Overcoming Constipation And Stool Withholding In Children (Author: Kathleen M. Diehl) (Publisher: Gateway to Being)
  • Solving Children’s Soiling Problems: A Handbook For Health Professionals (Author: Jackie Bracey) (Publisher: Churchill Livingstone)
  • Constipation, Withholding and Your Child: A Family Guide to Soiling and Wetting (Author: Anthony Cohn) (Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers)
  • Elimination Disorders in Children and Adolescents: Advances in Psychotherapy, Evidence-Based Practice (Authors: Edward R. Christophersen & Patrick C. Friman) (Publisher: Hogrefe Publishing)
  • Clouds and Clocks: A Story For Children Who Soil, Second Edition (Author: Matthew Galvin, M.D.) (Publisher: Magination Press)
  • It Hurts When I Poop!: A Story for Children Who Are Scared to Use the Potty (Author: Howard J. Bennett, M.D.) (Publisher: Magination Press)
  • Bladder and Bowel Issues for Kinds: A Handy Guide for Kids Ages 4-12 (Author: Janet  A. Hulme M.A., P.T.) (Publisher:Phoenix Publishing; 1 edition (June 2003)
  • I Can’t. I Won’t. No Way!: A Book for Children Who Refuse to Poop (Author: Tracey J. Vessillo) (Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (October 31, 2011)
  • The Un-Constipated Gourmet: Secrets to a Moveable Feast. 125 Recipes for the Regularity Challenged (Author: Denielle Svetcov) (Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.)
  • Poop: A Natural History of The Unmentionable (Author: Nicola Davies) (Publisher: Candlewick Press)
  • Softy the Poop: Helping Families Talk About Poop (Author: Thomas R. DuHamel, PhD) (Publisher: Maret Publishing)

What do you think of the list so far? What are you most interested in reading a review of? What are your favourites? Are there any others that need to be included?

I hope this list helps. Don’t forget to keep an eye out for my book. Enjoy the rest of the weekend and have the most amazing week ahead. Take care,

Dimity

The Skid Mark (with Encopresis)

 

Hey everyone,

How are you all going? Thank you for your e-mails & messages, and please keep them coming. Today this blog post is about Skid mark (with Encopresis). See diagram below.

The ENCOPRESIS SKID MARK diagram

 

A Skid mark is a very thin faecal line down the underwear and it can range from having a slightly soft texture to hard small faecal bits stuck to the underwear. Keep in mind that the skid marks also can appear when bottom hasn’t been cleaned properly, leaving a residue in the underwear. In my personal experience the smell is less noticeable as the stool isn’t as old in the body compared to normal Encopresis impaction.

As my Encopresis journey was nearing it’s ending, I noticed that the soiling changed from a heavy soiling to the skid mark. As the amount of soiling decreased, the skid marks were more noticeable. It can still leave a stain, and be aware of small pieces of stool deposits stuck to the underwear. The way I view it, and in my personal opinion & experience with Encopresis, if you see the skid mark the end is in sight. This isn’t a guarantee, just an observation. Always be vigilant, never let Encopresis determine WHO you are! There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Tell me: Have you seen any of the types of skid mark mentioned above or different?

Feel free to share your thoughts on this topic.

Take care everyone,

Dimity

P.S. “With an open mind, and an open heart…anything is possible!”

Encopresis survivor communication

Hi to all my readers out there,

How are you all doing? How is your weekend? Thank you for the e-mails, comments and posts and sharing your family story and experiences. I really appreciate it, respond and am here for you. As an Encopresis survivor myself, I know what it feels like to feel so alone with no one to talk to whom has gone thought it and open to talk to. Someone existing and real, someone that soils underwear with no idea why, someone that I can relate to. I’m here for you all.

I am available, open and interested in talking to your child/teenager/adult. Whether it’s on the phone, e-mail, writing a letter and creating a video message on YouTube. It doesn’t matter whether your child is 4, or in his/her 60’s. If receiving a personal letter from Santa Claus at Christmas time brightens up your child’s life, I know what it would be like to receive letters though out the year from a fellow Encopresis survivor.

I will give my postal address/phone number for the families that request it. The best ways to contact me are posting on my blog directly,

e-mail: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/helpencopresissurvivorseeellen

Twitter: @naturegirl015

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/naturegirl015

Enjoy the weekend everyone. Stay strong, be yourself and never give up.

Dimity

Encopresis and beyond (4 Questions asked)

Hey everyone,

How are you all doing? I wish to give a huge warm welcome to all my new subscribers (and Thank You).

I was asked recently via e-mail from a parent, about my experiences with Encopresis with a different angle. Below are the questions, and after that will be my responses to them. I hope it helps you all, for those that need it, and feel free to post your thoughts to them or e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com

1. At what age did your parents decide to let you take responsibility for managing your Encopresis on your own?

As a young child and more importantly as a teenager, I was given a plastic bag with a spare change of underwear (and can use the bag to put the soiled underwear in until home). However one spare change isn’t enough when that gets soiled literally as soon as it’s on (smell always lingered). After being constantly bullied when at the school bathrooms, I wouldn’t go in them during school hours unless absolutely necessary (ask your son/daughter about this), and never felt comfortable in there. My stools are very large (thanks to having Encopresis), that they have been known to block the toilet. Blocking the toilet in a public place is very embarrassing and highly increases low self esteem and very self conscious to the point of avoiding it. As a teenager (13 years old), I was old to put my dirty underwear in a bucket of Napisan (stain remover, in the laundry) to soak, which I would do. However when the underwear had the skid-mark type hard stools (and worse), then was yelled at and made to scrub it. This constantly made me cry my heart out to empty ears and very angry & disappointed with myself (as was everyone else). Admittedly and ashamedly this also led me to throw my underwear in the bin in secret to avoid the pain of going through it all, and survive and be a “normal” person. I was later found out (obviously had less underwear in the laundry), but it didn’t stop Encopresis or the emotional pain. Having the spare underwear handy is good and discreet at the time (not so discreet when people can smell it, except me). I wasn’t ever officially diagnosed nor had any X-rays/scans that are available now. I was also given a daily stool softener, Paraffin Oil (before dinner, and water after). It tasted yummy and makes me happy to think about it (it did from time to time give me Diarrhea or leave a oily residue). Did it make a difference? Honestly and in my personal experience, I definitely say YES! My bedroom was extended at age 15, when we did home renovations, and I was given my personal ensuite (and TV in my room), this also made all the difference…and the year I noticed my Encopresis had stopped.

2. Were you able to stop withholding cold turkey or did you still withhold and have the occasional accidents?

See above about personal ensuite/TV installed. I wouldn’t say that I “stopped withholding cold turkey” because I didn’t know that this was happening. No one, not even my parents, mentioned my clean underwear for a significant period of time. No one noticed, not even me. It was an advert on TV or a story or something I heard that when I thought about it was like, “Oh I stopped soiling…cool”, and then continued living.

3. Did you have an epiphany moment when you decided to change? What was that moment and what triggered it?

As mentioned previously.

4. Do you consider yourself to be completely free of Encopresis or do you, as an adult, still catch yourself withholding and take appropriate actions to avoid getting backed up?

Yes I do consider myself Encopresis-free..I’ve referred to myself as an “Encopresis Survivor”, and proud of it to admit it. If you or someone you know is Encopresis-free, then you’re an Encopresis survivor too. Keep in mind I will never say that I am in remission, of Enco (might explain this in another post). Admittedly I can’t pee/poop “on demand”, and this also means that I have difficulties to go successfully (go and not “get the urge but can’t physically go Now”) on the toilet on long haul flights. Sometimes I will get the pain in my abdomen for a few days (after long travel), but this eventually disappears after appropriate action has been initiated. I do continue to have large stools, although go more regularly (doesn’t have to be daily…it’s normal for me to NOT do a “number 2” daily). I prefer to poop at home/hotel.

Thank you for reading my blog. Please let me know in your comments below if you found it useful, any tips for others and what your thoughts are on this.

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Have a wonderful day, keep smiling and stay strong.

Dimity

An Encopresis Survivor’s guide to Social self confidence (Part 1)

Whenever it was recess/lunch time at school I spent the majority of time by myself, or I would talk to the teachers when they were doing their walk around on duty. “Why don’t you go hang out with your friends?” they would ask. “What friends?” was my constant reply. I could hang out with the bullies…plenty of them around. When the kids at school went to a party, school dance or ball..guess who wasn’t invited? Being treated as a loner for no other reason than “just because”, isn’t going to do anything good.

Having Encopresis with the uncontrollable soiling of underwear (and NO urge) is hard enough, having any chance of a social life is a long distant dream. When I see the “popular kids” or anyone with the huge self confidence or a social butterfly, I admit I’m envious. I cried a lot because of the bullying, being stabbed, work stolen and things thrown at me. Neither of these are related to having Encopresis, only I wasn’t self confident enough to not let it upset me.

The teenage years are where the affects of peer pressure and peer influence take hold. I was able to invite a few friends to my birthday, but rarely was I invited in return. Sometimes in the movies/TV shows there are scenes where the teenagers are hanging out with their friends (both guys and girls), dates and all the other fun stuff. When you have Encopresis (including myself), it isn’t a cliche but real. It can be so painful to watch other teenagers be happy and do “normal” things, but can only view it from the outside and no idea what it’s like to actually experience it for his/herself.

Once I left school after Graduation and no longer in contact of people from school life (especially the bullies), I am more able to gain my self confidence, and with it a sense of social confidence. Performing and books (writing, reading and the library) are always a part of me. I am my most happiest doing what I love, and no longer allow bullies to take control. I won’t be somewhere if the bullies are there. I always stayed true to myself, my family and my interests.

Being on stage, on set or writing and hanging out with like minded people means a lot to me. The more I know about myself and push my comfort zone, the more I can stand up for myself. I can walk down the street with a  spring in my step and talk to people. To tell someone I know that I had Enco isn’t easy, but it really is freeing. Here is a quote from a recent e-mail that a fellow Encopresis survivor sent me:

“I told my few friends in class that I had a disorder called Encopresis and for the first time in my life I no more feel shallow for myself and that they took it lightly now I feel much better around them.
Initially I repented telling them but I found that its better to let them know than hiding inside and killing my social life, I even discovered that its considerably a better experience than being sympathised. I am really doing good at this now and I am always thankful for your dedicated efforts towards enco veterans. I may be healing in a real slow pace but I found it as a healthy development and I am sure that my leap of faith did not go in vain”.

Understandably not everyone is ready to open up to someone they trust about this condition (myself included at the time). Opening up about this to someone you trust (close friend, teacher, family) is hard initially but is something I suggest you do. If suffer from Encopresis while at school for example, a trusting friend that knows what is happening and on your team, can hint that you need to change and be there for moral support. The first step is always the hardest.

Keep posted to my blog for Part 2 of this post. Don’t forget to subscribe, write/e-mail to The Ellen DeGeneres Show and give the Facebook page a LIKE ( https://www.facebook.com/helpencopresissurvivorseeellen?ref=hl ), and let me know how you go.

Do you have any suggestions? Have you shared your story with anyone else and was it helpful in gaining confidence in yourself and social confidence? Take care,

Dimity