The bright side to having Encopresis – the expansion

In a previous entry I wrote about my top 11 positive things I have learnt from my personal experiences with Encopresis (entry here: http://themagicwithinus.com/2013/03/30/there-is-a-bright-side-to-having-encopresis-my-top-10/ ), and this post is an explaination of each one. Feel free to comment and share your thoughts and stories.

1) You are not alone (even when you feel you are).

Throughout my life with Encopresis I always felt alone as I didn’t know anyone else (apart from a guy I grew up with) that did what I did. Not a single person, friend, celebrity, fictional character, role model…nothing. Even in the modern techonological era we live in today with the Internet and Social Media outlets, it is really hard to find and connect with other fellow survivors/battlers willing to open up (and the majority of those that have are on old abandonded forums). It is a huge relief and a wonderful feeling when I realised I’m not alone. There are others in this world with this condition (or had it) and exist. If more of us Encopresis survivors, battlers and the parents open up, maybe we can encourage more to open up and reach out. Talk to me (or e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com), I’m here to help and be there for those that need it. I know how much it means the world to find and communicate with another that knows exactly what it’s like to have Encopresis or know someone going through it.

I  now regularly  communicate with several Encopresis survivors/battlers and the parents since I began my journey last year joining groups and opening up (James Parkin is an Encopresis survivor too and you can read his blog here: http://writingfrom7.blogspot.com.au/2012/12/my-shameful-childhood-secret.html ). The more I talk to others the more I learn about it too from the parents angle, so thank you for sharing your story too.

2) Even though I may stink (with Encopresis) it’s others attitude that stinks more.

One of the horrible side effects of having Encopresis is losing friends because you stink. The few friends I had I am grateful for as they never once complained about it or acknowledged it (maybe I didn’t actually have soiled underwear when around them). I understand how hard it is for families (and those with Enco themselves) to not take negative comments to heart about stinking, having a bad parenting style (obviously you aren’t bad parents so don’t ever blame yourself for it) and other misconceptions because society in general doesn’t know what is going on. I’m not a bad person, I just had a medical problem that wasn’t diagnosed. It’s hard to be a strong and confident human being when those around you aren’t interested in who you are. Some of the negative comments I have heard personally or from the stories others have shared are so horrible, and that really stinks.

3) The body’s urge to go “number 2″ is never taken for granted.

It’s as simple as that. While I had Encopresis I rarely got any indication (if at all) I “had to go”, and when I did it was already too late (by a few hours). Now that my body is more regular and I actually do get that “so obvious” signal to go, I can recognise the difference. I will verify that if your child says he/she can’t feel it…to believe him/her. No one believed me then (or now), but based on the little indication I had I was speaking the truth at the time..my body’s indication of the truth. I have 2 previous entries about this here: http://themagicwithinus.com/2013/03/23/is-being-suddenly-cold-a-sign-of-the-body-needing-to-go/ and http://themagicwithinus.com/2012/07/09/is-it-true-your-child-cant-really-smell-or-feel-that-heshe-had-an-accident/ .

4) If you have a diet allergy/sensitivity, Encopresis can be a sign that something is wrong.

There are several parents in the Facebook group I’m in whom have come to the conclusion that a food sensitivity/allergy is contributing the Encopresis. Gluten and dairy being the main culprits.  Here is a blog from one parent about this particular topic (and I will expand more about this in my book): http://www.momsguidetoencopresis.com/

5) Encopresis can help strengthen a family bond, not hinder it.

I’m fortunate to have a loving, supportive and caring relationship with my family, reguardless of my Encopresis. It never stopped us from doing things and enjoying life. Don’t let Encopresis stop you too from living your best life. Many parents have found that by opening the communication with the child (and children), everyone can understand how everyone is feeling and if something hurts or not. I’ll expand more on this in a new entry (and in my book). What are your experiences?

6) ) You can be whomever you wish to be and not let Encopresis define who you are.

What does this statement mean to you?

7) Your true friends are there with you now, reguardless of if you stink or not (those that disappear truely aren’t your friends).

You’ll know who they are are in your life, and if not then you’ll know that too. For me I have redifined who my “friends” are and whom are not.

8) I am here opening up, talking and being there to those that need someone to talk to (my book and blog, Facebook, Twitter, e-mail)…because I had Encopresis myself.

As mentioned in my the first statement, what I’m doing now is something I wish was available when I had Encopresis. “Be the person you wish to see” is a phrase that speaks very true for me, and my goal/dream now. You can e-mail me: naturegirl015admin@themagicwithinus.com , Follow me on Twitter @naturegirl015 and you can LIKE my Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/themagicwithinus?ref=hl . I’m always here to chat about my experiences (and yours) or a shoulder to cry on. To find and communicate with someone that has this condition or a parent of someone that is means the world.  The more families I can help and the support, the more love I can share. 🙂

9) There are more support groups, communities, charities (ERIC UK), information and more…all at your fingertips via the internet and word of mouth.

Although I’m not affiliated with ERIC UK, I am honoured to help them as best I can and be included in their campaign “Lets talk about Poo”. ERIC UK is a not-for-profit Charity in the UK that specialises in Incontinence & Bedwetting in children (see link here:http://www.eric.org.uk/). I highly recommend them and they are a very friendly organisation.

If you know of any that I don’t, then please let me know and share your stories/experiences with them.

10)  There is light at the end of the tunnel…I’m living proof it can be a past medical condition, and here if you ever need me.

I’m not the only Encopresis survivors out there, you can be one too. 🙂

11) One day I’ll be on the Ellen Degeneres Show sharing my story, my book (and blog) and my love….a role model for those with Encopresis.

The first statement has this one in mind and heart. Who knows how many more lives can be saved or inspire when on The Ellen Degeneres Show.  I always love it when Ellen shares inspiring stories of obstacles people have gone through and what they’re doing now in helping others. She inspires me in so many ways (also Dean Cain and Doctor Who have a huge impact on me and my life). I dream big. Please click on the link, fill in the form and spread the word (Link here: http://www.ellentv.com/be-on-the-show/666/). Thank you.

For many years of my life I always referred to Encopresis as a curse (and I’m sure there are others that feel the same way). Now I want to turn it into a blessing in disguise. Remember: “With an open mind, and an open heart..anything is possible!” (my saying). What are your thoughts on all this? 🙂

4 thoughts on “The bright side to having Encopresis – the expansion

  1. Harry M VanHoudnos III 28/04/2013 / 10:30 pm

    A truly touching story here my friend. Lets hope that it helps to inspire so many others to come forward and tell their tale as well.

  2. James Parkin 28/04/2013 / 6:26 pm

    Well done Dimity on another inspiration post.

    Regarding number 3 on your list, in the film ‘The Paper’ a heavily pregnant woman who pees when she sneezes remarks, ‘You don’t appreciate bladder control until it’s gone.’ Well, having had encopresis really makes you appreciate bowel control. Having survived enco it’s so great knowing that when you get dressed in the morning you can be confident that your underwear will still be clean at the end of the day, that you can go out without being afraid of having an accident in a public place or that you will find yourself sitting in a classroom or on a bus smelling of poo and be teased and told off, things which most people never have to consider as they take the fact that they can control their bowel for granted.

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